Dating

As a 41 single mom of a 17 and 19 year old, dating isn't one of the most easiest things to do. It is especially hard because at my age many adults no longer feel that you should have to wait on intimate relations for marriage because your an adult. However as a believer I believe that it is my job to still maintain purity, regardless if I have children or not, marriage is the only acceptable way to be physically intimate with a partner. I discovered this through many hard turns, it is hard when your lonely to not be consumed by the attention from the opposite sex. However I also have discovered that I am worth someone that will wait to be with me until marriage. First of all truth is we are not kids who don't have a clue what sex is or is not, and we should be fully aware that sex is more than just about the actual act, it is all the stuff that leads up to it. And much of that cannot be achieved without the commitment that marriage brings.

I found myself in a relationship that I thought was going to be "the one" and I did more than I had intended and when it was over the feeling was worse then I could imagine because I was old enough to know better. It however has served as a reminder that I am still vulnerable to being swayed by just the right words. It made me fully aware that part of being grown up not only in the physical but also in the spiritual means self control, it means being willing to see what is necessary to take care of this body and to be an example to my children and to other christian single moms. Regardless of age dating and the intimacy that one wants to have with their partner are challenging obstacles that can be overcome.

I have chosen to truly submit my dating life as well as my self control in the dating life over to God, and ask Him for the help I need to make it through, so that I make good healthy decisions for myself and anyone that is watching my life play out.  I wish I had some easy remedy but what I have is a remedy and that is commit my life to prayer and time in God's word, that's how I can not only be successful but find the match that is worthy of my wait and willingness to be pure.